I’ve had a wild and woolly month when it comes to fear mongering about food. You know, the “this food is bad,” and “that food component will kill you” kind of month.
It all started with a disgruntled reader. Apparently, my Breakfast Egg Wrap in Under 5 Minutes recipe did not include enough nutrition. Certainly not the kind of recipe and nutrition modeling this reader expected to see from me. And boy, did she let me know.
But, I reminded myself, and I am reminding you now, I am not in the business of setting a standard of food and eating that is so high it causes more stress and a feeling of inadequacy.
Most parents I know have enough on their plate, thank you.
My “former” reader (yes, she left the blog) criticized the “processed” nature of the recipe, specifically, the fact that I used deli meat, what she assumed was processed cheese (it was whole milk American from the deli), and white, refined carbs.
For the record: I do not have time to separate the wheat from the chaff and grind wheat berries to make a tortilla. Nor do I have a chicken coop in my backyard, or a cow to milk. I’m a modern day mom and I use a variety of foods for my family.
Nothing is off limits, and everything is in moderation.
But it gets more interesting, this week of mine…
A post in my newsfeed on Facebook caught my eye. The subject: pizza in school. I passively glanced at the posted comments (which I would love to share with you but I would be hunted down and something bad might happen to me…and then I wouldn’t be able to write this lovely blog for you…)
It amazes me how freely people pass judgment on other people’s food choices. How quick we are to pass a moral judgment on one food choice, keeping our mind so narrowly focused that we neglect the possibility of a wide range of foods offered and eaten through out the day, and even the week.
When did food become a moral choice? When did we start handing out badges of honor for perfect food and eating? When did we become so quick to shame and guilt others for their perceived unhealthiness?
I thought about weighing in on the pizza at school subject, but I kept my mouth shut. Generally, my policy is: if you ask, I will give you a science-based, practical response. Otherwise, it’s NOT MY BUSINESS.
To add to the wild mix of information in my social media channels, a Sugar is Toxic video came up. Out of curiosity, I watched it. I couldn’t figure out who made the video and what the credentials were, or even what science they used to back up their statements.
They used scary and broad statements like: “Sugar is toxic.” “Sugar causes obesity, metabolic syndrome, and diabetes.”
Then, the video took on high fructose corn syrup (HFCS). As you can imagine there were more fearful statements.
The point here is not to validate sugar or HFCS as good for you, nor confirm that it’s bad for you. I will never call it toxic. I will never call any food toxic, unless it really is deadly.
If you follow this blog, you know where I stand–as an informant. Read: Simplifying the New Added Sugar Recommendations for Kids.
And, I will never blame any one food for a myriad of health problems.
Why? It’s just too simplistic. Weight problems don’t come from eating too much added sugar—issues with weight builds over time.
How Childhood Weight Problems Evolve
I like to compare the evolution of childhood obesity to the building of a home.
The foundation for unhealthy weight is rooted in early nutrition, feeding and genetics.
The structure that underlies this issue is the food and food systems within and outside of the home, food parenting and how limits and boundaries and flexibility with food are managed, and whether a healthy lifestyle is included routinely.
The finishing touches –or what sustains obesity–include food attitudes, every day actions (do you eat healthy food most of the time? do you exercise? do you diet and rebound? are you tuned in with your appetite and body?) motivation, parent education and child learning about nutrition and eating, and more.
The problem with “sugar is toxic” and other finger-pointing approaches with food is what it ultimately produces: fear.
I think fear, as it relates to food, is worse than any food could ever be.
Fear of sugar, fat, gluten, carbs or any other food or food property is incapacitating.
Fear short-circuits your brain’s rational thinking—it’s ability to think clearly and have sound perspective. When you eradicate all treats from your home to prevent childhood obesity, you’re parenting and feeding from a place of fear.
Fear creates indecisiveness, which can lead to being stuck in negative cycles, such as pushing your child to take another bite when you know it’s not working, and is creating more strife in your family.
I don’t want you to be afraid of food, or any food nutrient.
Food is powerful, but not that powerful.
The opposite of fear is courage.
I want you to be courageous with food. Open, willing, adventurous and flexible.
I want you to be calm and levelheaded when it comes to nourishing your child. This happens when you have a food system in place and a strategy to execute it.
My intention is never to create fear around food.
And I hope I never, ever do that to you, or make you feel that way.
So, let’s ditch the fear mongering and the fear of food. Let’s show our food courage to our children and food parent from a place of confidence!
Are you with me?
Written by: Jill Castle, MS, RDN
Published on: March 16, 2016
Updated on: May 8, 2019