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10 Reasons Your Child Eats Too Much

When your child eats too much it may concern you. What’s behind this? Why do kids eat too much?

The truth is, there are several reasons for overeating. And it’s not just because they’re hungry.

I’ve worked with kids who overeat for a variety of reasons. I outline these in this article, along with ways you can help.

10 Reasons Kids are Eating Too Much

What You Will Learn about Overeating in Kids:

  • Why kids want to eat all the time
  • The reasons behind overeating in kids
  • What you can do about the child who eats too much

10 Reasons Why Your Child Eats Too Much

  1. Hunger/Hangry
  2. Exercise
  3. Peer influence
  4. Sensory stimulation
  5. Boredom
  6. Parties!
  7. Emotions
  8. Restriction
  9. Erratic meals
  10. Enjoyment

Help! My Child Wants to Eat All the Time

In a perfect world, your child would eat for the right reasons: true hunger, health and nutrition.

In my years as a pediatric dietitian, I have come to know that we are all triggered to eat for a variety of reasons. 

Health and nutrition aren’t always the main drivers, especially when it comes to kids.

Sometimes our kids (and we) over-indulge– and even succumb to excessive eating, whether we intend to or not.

Just think about how hard it is to control your eating at a party!

When it comes to kids, you might worry that your child has a big appetite.

Or you notice she’s a big eater.

Or maybe you wonder why your son eats everything in sight.

Feeling confused (and frustrated) by your child’s desire to eat, and tendency to overeat, you may feel yourself getting pulled into the role of the food cop.

In this article, I’ll discuss the causes of eating too much food in children and what you can do to help (without making things worse). 

The Signs of Eating Too Much Food

Aside from the obvious evidence of overeating, there are other, more subtle signs that make parents concerned about their child’s eating habits.

Over the years, I’ve heard stories about moms finding empty candy wrappers hidden in their children’s rooms.

Stories about kids who are eating too much food when they’re at a birthday party, especially sweets and treats.

Tales of children who don’t seem to have self-control around unhealthy, indulgent foods like candy and chips.

And, even accounts of kids who are addicted to sugar.

Have you felt embarrassed when your child goes bonkers for sweets at birthday parties?

Have you felt annoyed by the constant questions about when and what is being served at meals and snacks?

When a Child Eats Too Much

First, let me just say, you’re not alone in your concerns about your child’s eating.

When kids seem to want to eat everything in sight, it can be disturbing.

This issue of self-control around food versus loss of self-control with eating has been one of the most common frustrations I hear from parents like you.

Many parents are frightened by this when it happens with their child.

They don’t understand the underlying reasons that may trigger kids to eat, or why their child participates in excessive eating.

Often they think overeating is a food problem. But, I’m here to tell you, oftentimes, the reasons are deeper and perhaps, multi-factored.

Let me clear up that confusion.

10 Reasons for Overeating in Children

Here are the most common reasons why a child eats too much, from my experience.

1. Too Much Hunger (He’s Hangry)

Hunger is the signal that tells our bodies to seek food and eat. A child’s appetite is closely tied to their growth. 

Since children are in an eighteen-year growing process, hunger will always be a primary driver for eating.

You will naturally see greater hunger during the baby and teens years (the adolescent growth spurt).

These are the two high growth periods in childhood.

How You Can Help:

  • Don’t let your child get too hungry.
  • Stay ahead of hunger by setting up a regular eating schedule, offering meals and snacks at regular times of the day, generally every three to four hours. These eating intervals are opportunities to eat, not mandated eating times.
  • Better yet, make sure you’ve got a balanced meal plan in place–it helps quite a bit!

2. Exercise Stimulates Hunger

Active kids burn calories when they exercise. They get hungry when they’ve burned through their calorie reserves, signaling the brain it’s time to refuel.

That kicks the hunger signals into gear.

Depending on the intensity and duration of exercise, hunger can be a real driver of eating.

How You Can Help:

  • For recreational exercise lasting less than an hour, stay on a routine of timely meals and snacks. There is no need to provide extra food.
  • For the athlete exercising longer than an hour, offer a small pre-exercise snack and an after-exercise snack, making sure both provide some quality protein and carbohydrate. 

Need more help with feeding your athlete?

You’re in luck! I have a nutrition class for young athletes called Eat Like a Champion and a companion book for parents.

3. The Influence of Peers & Media

In the school age and teen years, the influence of peers is strong. This is so developmentally appropriate, so I always tell my families to expect this.

Translated: Children and teens want to eat what their friends are eating.

This is often influenced by commercials and advertising kids see on TV and the computer. This alone can be the reason for junk food requests.

I interviewed the author of Kid Food on the podcast and she sheds lots of insight into food marketing to kids — take a listen!

How You Can Help:

4. Foods Turn on All the Senses

The smell and appearance of food can make a child want to dig in.

Additionally, research shows that prior enjoyment of a food can trigger a desire to eat delectable foods when they’re seen again.

Fond memories can do the same.

How You Can Help:

  • Make healthy food look and taste good! Studies suggest that kids and teens are more inclined to taste a food if it looks good. The sensory appeal of food can encourage your child to eat it. Makes sense!

5. Your Child is Bored

Kids learn to eat when they’re bored. Typically, this occurs between ages five and nine.

The phenomenon is called Eating in the Absence of Hunger.

There’s been plenty of research conducted on this topic.

In a nutshell, kids get bored, and they don’t know what to do, so they eat.

Over time, they learn to turn to food when they are bored.

Overeating due to boredom may occur when there are a lack of strong boundaries around food and eating.

How You Can Help:

  • There are many ways in which you can create stronger boundaries around food. For one, you can close the kitchen after meals and snacks.  
  • Other ways you can help ‘tighten the ship:’ Ask your child to ask first before he helps himself to snacks or extra food.
  • Plan and serve structured meals and snacks.

These three boundaries can help you combat eating due to boredom.

6. Celebrations & Party Food are Triggers

I think we all eat more at celebrations. I know I certainly do!

It’s part of the party mentality: Dig in, indulge, and let go.

The challenge with kids is that there are many opportunities to celebrate: Birthday parties, holiday celebrations, end of sport season, and on and on.

The multitude of parties to which your child is exposed makes it hard to help your child eat for hunger rather than the common food triggers that are present at the party scene.

How You Can Help: 

  • Feed your child a regular meal or snack before heading out to a party or event.
  • Monitor your child’s eating during the day. Not so you can tightly control eating too much food, but so you have a sense of her eating patterns and food balance. That way, you can adjust what you offer at home.

Staying on track with meals and snacks before attending a celebration will lessen the likelihood of over-indulging (hopefully!).

To learn more tips for handling parties and celebrations with your child, read How to Handle Kid’s Eating at Parties .

7. Emotions Spur Eating

When kids are eating too much it may be a side-effect of learning how to deal with uncomfortable or negative emotions by eating food.

Comforting or soothing a child with food may teach him that eating is the thing to do when faced with feelings of sadness, loneliness or unhappiness.

For example, if your child is sad because he didn’t get invited to a party, you may offer to make cookies.

Or, when your daughter doesn’t make the team, you ask her if she wants to go out for ice cream.

None of these are bad reactions, but they may encourage an association with food as a comfort mechanism rather than other, healthier behaviors.

As mentioned above, researchers call this Eating in the Absence of Hunger and it is tied to higher weight and poor eating habits. 

How You Can Help:

A window display of desserts in Switzerland.

8. Restriction: You’re the Food Police

If kids have experienced an overly restricted food environment at home (ie, no sweets, no junk food, or no second helpings), they may be seeking these forbidden foods when you aren’t around to monitor them.

In other words, restrictive diets and tightly controlling your child’s food choices, or the amounts he eats, may backfire, leading to food seeking behavior and overeating. 

Making any food forbidden or scarce can cause more problems and probably isn’t helpful.

Learn more: Forbidden Foods on The Nourished Child podcast.

How You Can Help:

  • Expose your child to foods like candy, sweets and fried foods on a regular basis so they aren’t novel. This doesn’t mean to load them up in the house and say yes to every food request.
  • Use my 90/10 Rule to get started with a framework that will help you be in a better balance with food (above).
  • Also, having a sweets strategy your family can live by can be useful in normalizing your child’s relationship with them.  
  • I challenge you to dig into your feeding style and see how that may be influencing your child’s eating, too.
  • And, last, review your knowledge of parenting food — it’s a key to feeding kids well.

9. Meals and Snacks are Erratic

When your child has a ravenous appetite and tends toward excessive eating, the timing of meals and snacks may be the culprit.

Hunger can build up when the time between meals is too long, leading to food-seeking behavior and overeating.

Also, when meals don’t contain enough food or aren’t nutritious and satisfying, children can desire more food later and become too focused on food.

[Listen to Healthy Snacks: Satisfy Hunger with 3 Key Nutrients]

When the focus on food is high, the likelihood for kids to eat too much is higher.

How You Can Help:

10. Your Child Enjoys Eating

Eating is an enjoyable endeavor for many children—the process of eating, the taste, the smells, and community with others—all together making eating an exciting and pleasurable endeavor.

If eating is enjoyable for your child, congratulations, you’re halfway to really nourishing a healthy child!

We should all be striving to have children who enjoy eating, who light up when it’s time to come to the table.

And, just because your child enjoys eating, doesn’t mean he’s overeating.

What You Can Do:

  • Hold steady with plenty of food variety. Create a positive meal environment.
  • Stay on schedule with structured meals and snacks.
  • Put food and eating in its place—at mealtime or snack time and at a regular location.
10 Reasons your child may be eating too much

Understand the Child Who Won’t Stop Eating

If your child is eating too much, understanding the root of the issue (if there is one) will help you correct course and feed your child with love and limits.

Learn how to really raise a healthy eater.

Parents find there’s a lot more that goes into it than they expect!

Don’t go it alone.

If Your Child Wants to Eat All the Time, You May Want More Help

The Nourished Child Blueprint is my online program for parents who want to learn about nutrition and food balance, effective feeding, and healthy habits for a lifetime. 

It is the blueprint for raising healthy eaters who live in a healthy body and have a healthy relationship with food.

You can find this and my other nutrition classes, workshops and guidebooks over on TheNourishedChild.com.

Check it out!

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This post was updated in April, 2023.

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